“The greatest gift that manifesting can offer us is not to help us attract things for us to possess but to help us unleash the most empowered, authentic, self-loving, and truly magnificent version of ourselves that there is.” —Roxie Nafousi
How we live, how we think, what we think determines the destiny of our lives, and all three are thankfully within our control.
All three actions – living, thinking, selecting [which thoughts to think] – involve just that, being active rather than being passive. However, the paradox arises when we choose to first actively and consciously engage constructively with each daily practice – thinking, living, selecting – but then, . . . let go and let the magic unfold as it will.
When I first picked up Roxi Nafousi’s new book Manifest I wasn’t sure how she would present the idea of manifesting, but I quickly discovered that she spoke to the core tenets of living simply luxuriously which involve active participation in our lives, deepening our awareness and knowledge of how our mind works and applying that knowledge to tap in to discovering what lies within that is uniquely who we are. In fact, late last year, I wrote a post about self-sabotage and better understanding the temporary discomfort that often derails the life trajectory that will ultimately bring us deep fulfillment, a discovery of insight taught in Nafousi’s book.
And there is so much more within the pages of the book to inspire you as you step into this new year, so I wanted to give one more taste of what manifesting entails because what it gave me was a sense of peace to let go once I have clarity and am willing to act consciously.
To begin with, Nafousi’s book is neatly organized around the seven steps, and each play a necessary role in cultivating healthy habits and thought defaults that set you on the right track to create the magic that at this moment may seem impossible.
To reiterate, manifesting is not a passive approach to life. “You cannot just be clear in your vision and then wait for it to appear.” So what does that mean exactly? Step two in the book centers around eradicating fear and doubt from your life, and she goes into great helpful detail to explain how by allowing fear and doubt into your life, errantly believing that they are your ‘friends’ is a significant reason you are not manifesting the life you wish to live.
As it pertains to being active, Nafousi teaches that we must align our behavior with what we imagine to be our future life and selves as this reveals that we value ourselves, and we have a healthy awareness of our self-worth. If we allow fear and doubt to limit our vision of our life, then, as she describes, ‘the universe won’t believe you believe what you say you deserve.”
And this is where the hard work comes in. So you want to pass the bar exam? You cannot just ‘think’ your way to passing the exam. You are going have to study, prepare, study even more, and re-prioritize your time for a duration in order to ensure you are prepared to pass. Want to learn a new language? You are going to have to invest in quality instruction, invest your time, continuing to study regularly and surround yourself with the language as much as possible for a decently long duration of time, but your clarity of what your vision is gives you the road map and helps you to stay focused.
Nafousi points out that once you know that path and what it might take to manifest what you envision, fear and doubt may still crop up. How? By way of excuses – “I don’t have enough time”, “I don’t have enough resources [i.e. money, support, etc.]”, “I don’t have enough energy”. Each of these excuses are just that, excuses borne out of fear or doubt. The excuse is a subterfuge for saying “I am not worth what I seek and I don’t believe I am actually ready for what I hope for”.
But here is the good news: If you have done the homework of you, examined the feelings behind what you seek, and know in your core that what you are trying to manifest is sincerely aligned with your true self and fulfillment, toss aside the excuses. Yep, even if you cannot see how the money situation will work to make it a reality. Why? The universe has a magical way of making it work out. Maybe not exactly as you envisioned or when you envisioned it would all come together, but if you are willing to risk and toil and invest your time and whole heart, your sincerity is in many ways a silent language that the universe understands. Stay the course, keep investing (non-monetarily and monetarily), and then let go as you travel forward on your journey. That is the paradoxical part of this beautiful concept of manifesting. Let go.
You still remain active, you are still wholly engaged, but what you will find is because you are truly aligned and sincere, the weeks and months, maybe even years on the calendar may flip by, but you are building capital as they say, building further proof that you believe you are worthy of what you are investing in and at some point it seems to all come together, often more beautifully that you could have imagined. But the good news is that you enjoyed the journey to this point as well because that journey was and is your life, just as much as arriving at the moment of manifestation.
“True contentment and joy come not from material possession but from the relationships around us; from our sense of purpose; from our ability to live in a way that reflects our most authentic self. So, when you are deciding what you want to manifest, choose the things that will bring you the most fulfillment possible and know that the only person who can decide what that is, is you.” —Roxie Nafousi
The letting go also comes in the form of “letting go of who we think we should be, who other people expect us to be, and who we once were.” During this time of limbo, when you have let go and are swinging forward to a less ‘known’, but no less specifically desired outcome, there will be tests. These tests are something we have talked about frequently on the blog. These tests crossing your path, believe it or not, come as a good sign because it means you are beginning to grow and change, and the universe just wants to check to see if you indeed believe in yourself. Each test also brings a gift, and that gift is a lesson you need to learn in order to step closer to the outcome you seek. Take the test, pass the test, move forward. You’ve got this. And the only way to fail the test is to not look for the lesson it wishes to teach you. Simply face the test, engage, explore, try your best, and as Nafousi points out “whenever you make the energetic shift to overcome your test, you will be rewarded with abundance.”
If that all seems a bit ‘whoo-hooey’, let me put it in more concise terms: it comes down to your mindset – are you set in a scarcity mindset or an abundance mindset? In a detailed post written this past November, I share how to shift your mindset from scarcity to abundance because in order to live the life you have envisioned, your mind must rest in abundance. And part of making that shift is stepping past the fear and the doubt that wants to keep you right where you are, and the only way to move forward is to engage with each test the universe sends your way and not cower. You may shake a bit, but remain standing and explore what is being presented. You don’t have to act right away, but take your time, ask questions, feel your way around what is really going on and what you are really feeling and why.
The balancing of taking action and letting go may initially seem a tricky, and almost impossible, balance, but really what life is asking of you is to be present. There is no need to rush so long as you have put forward your intention with the clarity that you now have. Sometimes you will have to wait months and years for the materialization, but in a flash, all of a sudden it arrives. Almost so quickly it doesn’t seem real and you question it, but rest your mind in the place of reassurance that this is indeed real because you put your intention and your energy out there a long time ago, and finally, the opportunity arose because you let go and moved with the timing of the universe. Seize it and savor it.
Manifest: 7 Steps to living Your Best Life by Roxy Nafousi
This Beautiful Fantastic, film (2017)
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Shannon looks like you’ve found another gem of a book. It’s true .Often when we think of ‘manifesting’ we think of possessing things but she has flipped it to investing in ourselves to be our best selves.Many think that you only have to think about what you want and it will happen . In fact people want to do and become without acknowledging that you need to make that investment. Hard work pays off.
Well said, Kameela?
Shannon, thank you for sharing more of your thoughts and critique of Manifest, it’s much appreciated.
I began reading the book(barely) on 1 January and, like you, had questions concerning her definition. Also, I realized that, for me, it must be a book to read the first time in one sitting, not parsed daily, and I have yet made the time for diving in.
I love that quote of Nafousi’s you included, which settled any doubts I had about her approach. And so now I think I have my weekend plans settled–1) planting the last of the bulbs(US zone 8b) and securing the new trellis that will preside over the pollinator garden and where the Bug Hotels will be attached; 2) settling in for a good long read of Manifest; and 3) watching what looks to be a delightful little film, The Beautiful Fantastic. Thanks again, Shannon, love to the puppers. xox
Your weekend plans sound quite divine. Bug Hotels! Did you see the gardener in the most recent GW and her bug hotels? Quite inspiring! What a fun idea to try. And I do think you will enjoy the book as it largely aligns with much of the mindfulness approach to living plus having clarity of one’s direction. Wishing you a most fantastic weekend!
No, I have not seen that article, thanks for the heads up, DEFINITELY a must-read in preparation for this weekend!!
Y’all have a fabulous weekend as well!??☕?
It is the fourth of the four holiday specials on the GW tv series for 2022. I think you will like it. I was impressed with her artistic approach.
Rona, I read your comments and was amazed at your weekend plans, they sounded wonderful. I am however, in Zone 5b and it has been snowing since last night. But I am dreaming of spring garden plans.
Wonderful, I need to catch up on all of those anyway, might as well “bee-gin” tonight.???
Shannon, I need to listen to the podcast again, I was going from room to room doing chores today while listening and missed some bits. But enjoyed what I heard. But I wanted to write that I just finished watching This Beautiful Fantastic, oh my I loved it, the story, the characters and of course the beautiful gardens and flowers, thank you.
Josanne, Thank you for sharing with me how much you enjoyed the film! I am so tickled to hear this. 🙂 And thank you for tuning in to the episode. As I mentioned, I was skeptical as to what the author meant by manifest, but her approach overlaps and complements in many ways how to live mindfully and with intention, but also letting go and not forcing. A much less stressful way to live and thus enables us to enjoy each day fully. Wishing you a wonderful day. 🙂