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“Remember, the most crucial part of your story is when the roots grow, not the flowers.” —@poetryrise
It took three years to finally find the home where my roses would thrive.
The rose plants arrived in top-notch condition back in 2022 and fully capable of growing well so long as the gardener provide the ingredients they needed to fulfill their potential: the right soil, the proper care and best place for enough sun and water.
During the first two growing seasons, one rose bloom, maybe two, shared themselves on my Apricot Candy heirloom rose. This year, having been transplanted into its new home on the south-facing side of the house (previously on the east side and receiving very little sunshine), it brought forth three roses within hours of each other and is already giving me more during its first blooming. Finally, and thankfully, it found its happy home to thrive.


The rose’s roots simply needed the right nourishment which came both from the soil in which it was planted, and the amount of sun and water it received. Once the equation had been corrected, the roots were able to establish themselves well, and then the roses came forth with ease.


In our own life, it can be a defensible mistake to give our time and attention to how our life looks on the outside in order to be accepted, approved and even applauded (home, lifestyle, relationships, clothing, car, vacations, etc.). In so doing, we unconsciously reveal that we are unaware of the genesis of how a life of contentment, fulfillment and ease of being actually materializes. While unfortunately, we have misunderstood the equation for how to reach the concepts we seek, we can absolutely be forgiven for this misunderstanding because it is what is presented as truth by much of culture as to what is applauded and praised, and thus supported and encouraged. And since we are by nature social creatures, it makes sense; however, it cannot nourish the fulfillment we seek if haven’t honored what our roots, ourself needs.
And so, we must begin by giving our full attention to caring well for our roots and then the exterior will take care of itself well more beautifully than we may ever have imagined.
There can be many presumed parallels of what ‘roots’ may mean in our daily life, but ultimately, healthy roots are what you uniquely need to thrive. What we each need will be different a different recipe, so to speak, from anyone else, whether you are related to them or not, whether you come from the same culture or country or not, whether you are the same gender or not, whether you are [fill in the blank to include any characteristic that you may feel you have to align with because something is similar to someone else].
“Don’t forget who you are and where you came from. But don’t let it hold you back either.” —Julian Fellowes, Downton Abbey: A New Era, film
How do you know when your roots are growing and healthily so?
You will embody a quiet confidence. In the post below, 10 everyday life choices and ways of being are shared that demonstrate what it feels and looks like to embody this gift that we cannot think our way to, as Andy Puddicombe teaches, but rather comes from knowing the mind, knowing one’s self. (In TSLL’s Contentment Masterclass, how to familiarize or refamiliarize yourself with your true self is taught.)
The beautiful or perhaps we should describe it as the mysterious part of caring for our roots properly is that nobody knows except for each of us what we need. Of course, we have the choice to share with the world what we are doing for self-growth, better health, improved soft skills, etc., but we don’t have to. The intention when we choose to give our roots what they need is to heal ourself so that we can then discover peace within. That is how we begin to cultivate a life of contentment, and each one of us has something different that we need to heal, that we need to bring awareness to, if we are going to reach our full potential and finally reside in a place of peaceful travel through our days along our entire life journey. Because yes, it is possible to be at peace each and everyday of our life when we reside in contentment.
By focusing on what your roots need to thrive, you are putting your trust in the universe to reveal to you what you can uniquely give that the world so desperately needs. It may result in your outer world looking as you had envisioned during your days of unconsciously focusing on the exterior rather than the roots, but it may not. However, and here is the awesome news, whichever way it ends up appearing, what you will feel is peace. A feeling that you have found a purpose and are engaged in a passion, one that energizes you and with each day you awake and truly become excited and eager to begin the day. Now, I don’t know about you, but that sounds like an amazingly enjoyable way to live a life.
Have a wonderful start to the new week and thank you for stopping by ☺️.
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