With all of the fashions in recent past and upcoming seasons revealing a more feminine, classic appeal, I thought it very fitting to revisit the idea of being a lady. So often in our modern culture, young girls and beyond aren’t able to understand or appreciate the privilege and value in presenting themselves as a lady in society. But I must say that I truly believe it is indeed a privilege more so today than in any time in history because of the many opportunities that lay at our feet if only we choose to chase after them. Oscar de la Renta commented recently about designing for today’s woman,“Never in the history of time has a woman been so in control of her destiny than the woman today.” And the truth in such a statement could not ring more clearly.
As a woman, that mere fact, is something to celebrate, but in being a woman, this responsibility must not be taken lightly. Too often it seems that many feel it is best to try to “run with the boys”, but the truth is while yes, we can run with them, why would we want to when we can be what they cannot? Being a lady no longer means being silent and subservient. A modern lady is strong, but in a more subtle confident way that doesn’t need to be abrasive. A modern woman is well-educated and staying apprised of the goings-ons in the world around her so that no one can pull the wool over her eyes. The fact most surely remains that a woman’s looks can be helpful, but her brains will always propel her to where she wants to go.
With that said, during the next three Wednesdays, The Simply Luxurious Life will share ways to act like a modern lady. This particular series could probably go on for quite some time, but I’ve tried to narrow it down. Let’s get started.
A simple gesture that can say more than words can express is writing a thank you note to send to either a host of a dinner party you attended, a thoughtful gesture by a friend, or anything when the person clearly went out of their way to create a beautiful moment in which you were a part of. Another similar gesture would be to always come with someone in hand – a bottle of wine, a beautiful luxury candle or another type of hostess gift to a party in which you are invited. This courtesy communicates to your host your appreciation.
Something that seems to have slipped a bit is the courtesy to RSVP whether you are able to attend a party or not. By taking the time to communicate with the event host or party planner you are saving them unnecessary money and stress, and in the event you can’t make it, you are extended the message that you truly do appreciate the invite. Nowadays, RSVPing is much simpler as you can quickly send off an email to correspond your intentions.
In our world of reality television and tell-all books, it seems a rarity to know a woman who shares just enough to keep you intrigued, but not so much as to make you feel as though you’ve stepped into her boudoir. Now, we all must have our closest friends with whom we share our intimate secrets with, after all, we all need to vent every once in awhile and not everyone can afford or wants a therapist, but just because someone asks you a question, doesn’t me you are obligated to respond or post it on your Facebook page. In other words, always know something that nobody else knows, it keeps people on their toes.
Now if you are a woman who has great taste and common sense (which I know you are), you undoubtedly have had many reasons in life to celebrate. The beauty of being a modern lady is that you have a healthy confidence about yourself that doesn’t require a continuous patting on the back. An initial celebration, fantastic. Allowing your dearest friends and loved ones to raise a glass, absolutely, but beyond that, be reserved. Consider this an opportunity to create a bit of mystery due to the fact that you know something that everyone else might love to know, but you won’t be divulging any time soon.
There’s nothing more welcomed than a woman of her word. If you say you’ll call, follow through. If you mention you could lend a hand, do so without any prompting. And on the flip side, don’t offer to do something that, while sounding great at the moment, isn’t something you’ll be able to actually do. Initially, some may question why you aren’t saying yes to everything, but with time, when they realize that when you do step up, you do a lovely job, the right people won’t mind a bit and will take note.
Out of curiosity, I would love to know what your definition of a modern lady would be. Be sure to stop by next Wednesday as the series continues. Have a wonderful day.