If you are a planner, someone who knows what she wants, loves her “to-do” list and feels a small rush of adrenaline when even small tasks are completed as expected, it is quite frustrating when life diverts your plans and sends you on a detour. And when it feels as though it is happening again and again, it may cause you to reassess your intended direction.
Even though your determination is being tested during such uncertain times, I would urge you to not lose sight of your intended goal. Instead what I would advise is to be flexible in the many small steps that will eventually lead to where you want to go.
Why? The beautiful gift of life is essentially a paradox. Plan, plan, plan, only to be thrilled with an outcome we hadn’t planned on. Such an idea sounds irrational initially, but think about. By setting a goal, you have a focus. Much like a slinky, even if you get pulled off course (or so you think), by always remaining focused on your goal, you will be pulled back when the time is right. In fact, you may be pulled back toward something even better than you could have planned.
Similar to an unexpected thunder storm on a day you had planned a picnic outside, amazing moments can be created and enjoyed that you hadn’t even expected or could have ever planned. When you are pulled off course, you experience people, interactions, events, and once-in-a-lifetime moments that you would have never imagined at the beginning of your journey. But you see, these unforeseen moments are opportunities to learn lessons that will behoove you down the road to ensure you are able to attain your dream. Sometimes, often times, we don’t know what we need when we set a goal before ourselves. Thankfully, however, we have the naiveté to not know the obstacles and only the excitement and thrill of imagining what could be when we finally arrive at our destination.
Most importantly, know what you want – set a goal. Dream big! Then, choose to embrace the winding course that, trust me, is leading you to where you wish to go, and perhaps where you never dared to dream you could go.
Have a wonderful Monday everyone, and have faith in life, and most importantly in yourself, that you are heading in the right direction, as long as you continue to move forward.