Why Not . . . Create Your Own Signature Style? Part Deux

Jan 12, 2011

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Creating your own signature style is a very personal thing.  No two signature styles are exactly alike.  While they may have similar components, they will never be identical because each person is unique.  Keeping in mind your tastes, where you live, your body type, your eye color, your bone structure, your personality, and so much more, everything comes into play as each person sets out to distinguish their very own signature style.  The key however is experience, going out and living life and listening to what you are learning about yourself.

Last week, the series began by demonstrating where in our lives a person’s signature style is revealed (click here to read) and this week, I’d like to begin by sharing ideas on what to do to discover exactly what your signature style is.  So many of you last week mentioned, that while you’d love to have a signature style, you don’t know how to go about nailing it down. So, with that in mind, here are six ways to find it on your own.  The key however, is to always be conscious of your initial reaction to something and always be honest with yourself.


An undying love for the written word is a must and something that a stylish woman should continually be engaged in on a daily basis.  Whether it is reading the daily newspaper’s opinion pages, devouring a how-to book or reading a recently released best-seller, you expose yourself to an array of ideas that had you never cracked a book, you might have been oblivious to.  Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to creating your signature style.  After all, how can you know what you truly love if you don’t provide yourself with options to choose from?


As Mark Twain reminds us, “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness . . .” and in aiding each of us along our journey to create our own signature style, the opportunity to travel opens our eyes to the myriad of ways people live their lives.  I have always found that in traveling, I am reassured that there are endless ways to lead a content life and am strengthened upon returning home because of my new-found knowledge.  Upon arriving home, ask yourself, what about their culture did I respond positively to?  If something resonated with you, why not incorporate it some way in your life? Love having tea time similar to that of the Queen? Why not allow yourself the time in mid-afternoon to sit down with a hot pot of tea and a small treat to help get through the rest of the day?


Accepting invitations to attend new events and experience new people all the while listening to their ideas is certain to fine-tune what you truly enjoy, what type of lifestyle you genuinely feel comfortable living and the potential to discover a concept you had never considered before. My first yoga class, well, actually my second after a span of over ten years, was far more enlightening and engaging than I ever imagined.  Maybe I was finally at a point in my life where I could get out of my own way, or maybe this particular instructor spoke a language I meshed with, either way, until you go, you’ll never know.

Keep An Open Mind

A way to ensure you continue to be invited to more social gatherings, especially the one’s you enjoy, is to always keep an open-mind.  After all, nobody wants a stick-in the mud who can’t engage in a little healthy debate. Now this doesn’t mean that you can’t have your opinions, but by respecting other’s opinions, different concepts that are presenting in an art exhibit or a play you may see, you are doing yourself a tremendous favor. The moment you open your mind, letting go of staunchly kept assumptions and beliefs, you allow the opportunity for your curiosity to be piqued, your mind and thinking to be challenged and, even better, an occasion for growth. How it works is, even if you don’t agree with the idea that was presented, at least you’ve digested it, at least you’ve contemplated it.  And as they say, the best way to win a debate is to know both sides. The same can be said for discovering  your signature style, once you know what your options are, you can make the choice that fits you the best.


Out of all the suggestions mentioned above on how to pinpoint and create your signature style, allowing a few minutes for self-reflection is the simplest and most likely, the most productive.  Take a moment to settle your mind and reflect on what makes you unique. What comes easily to you that many people struggle with or don’t even attempt? Can you carry off a pixie haircut with the pizzazz of Twiggy?  Do you have a knack for sketching  and illustrating?  Can you quickly discern which colors and textures work well together? What do people compliment you on regularly? By considering this question, you may begin to realize you already do have the beginnings of your very own signature style and can now begin to build upon it.

Use Your Senses

The tips suggested above to help you decide what your signature style should be, or maybe already is, really comes down to listening to yourself. In each of the situations above, pay very close attention to what jumps out at you? What outfits do your eyes gravitate towards when you’re traveling, shopping or browsing through magazines?  What lines in books speak to you? What scents do you gravitate towards? What destinations seem to be calling your name? Who do you look up to? Who inspires you?  What textures feel good? What flavors leave you always wanting more?

By being honest about your true passions and tendencies, you will find that you are closer to narrowing down your signature style than you may have at first realized. Now it’s time to have the confidence to own it. Click here to read part three.


17 thoughts on “Why Not . . . Create Your Own Signature Style? Part Deux

  1. These are terrific tips and I agree these aspects of our lives make us who we are. Travel can be very inexpensive, too. I never use money as an excuse not to travel. It’s the most important thing in the world to me. Reading, too. I read nearly every genre available and feel reading is a writer’s most important job.

  2. You said it completely at the beginning:
    “The key however, is to always be conscious of your initial reaction to something and always be honest with yourself.”
    This always helps me figure out what my true style really is…not necessarily what I want it to be. I think your true signature style is ingrained in you…all you have to do is uncover it. These are great tips for doing just that!!!

  3. Heavenly Housewife – so happy you stopped by! Thanks for the follow. 🙂

    Laura – you are so right regarding travel – it doesn’t have to be expensive, it can simply be to a nearby town you don’t visit very often. Changing up what you see can really be inspiring.

    Lissa – very good point. So much of our uniqueness is just waiting to be discovered.

  4. I loved this post!! The images are beautiful, and you have a gift with writing. This was a lovely reminder of how to engage with life!


  5. how refreshing to read a post about style that focuses on the inner person and their approach to life!! a nice (& true) change from ‘find your style idol and your best color’ platitudes…….style permeates every aspect of life and emerges from every part of a truly stylish person. thank you!! off to read part three ; )


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